For a long time, I used to associate healing with something being broken such as a broken arm needing healing. I then used this same meaning to my own life. That in some way, there was something broken within me that needed fixing because of the pain that I was experiencing. Over time I’ve realised that this wasn’t true, that I wasn’t broken and that there is nothing wrong with me or any of us. However, recently the phrase ‘healing is remembering who you are’ popped into my consciousness and I realised that this is what our true healing process is.
On a physical level when it comes to the body, healing could mean fixing something that is broken like the broken arm that I mentioned above. However, with respect to a lot of the disease (dis-ease) that people experience there has been a lot of research to show how our thoughts and beliefs actually impact our body. That actually our bodies are amazing regenerative vehicles. When something goes ‘wrong’, it’s mainly because there is a message for us there. If you’re new to this idea of the effect of your thoughts on your body, then read ‘You can heal your life’ by Louise Hay or ‘The Biology of Belief’ by Dr Bruce Lipton. I found both of them truly fascinating!
For so long we’ve been imposed with the idea that something is wrong with us. If you look at all the marketing that happens out there, a lot of it is based on competition and encouraging the comparison of one another. They aim to provide a solution to a problem in our lives that these large corporations and industries have themselves created; that is, insinuating that we need certain things in order to feel good or enough when we are perfectly fine without them. For example, promoting the latest phone/car so that one can be seen as technologically advanced ; encouraging the use of makeup or certain brands of clothes so that one can look good and stylish/fit in etc.
On an emotional level, we’ve also been sold this idea that somehow, we need fixing; that there is something innately wrong with us which needs to be healed. If you go to the self-development aisle in a book store (or online), there are an enormous number of books that follow this narrative. However, the truth is that there isn’t anything wrong with us. We’ve just been conditioned to believe that life is meant to work a certain way and if you don’t fit within those parameters, then you’re damaged in some way.
I truly believe what we need now is to heal through remembering who we truly are. To honour and accept all parts of ourselves as they have helped us to be where we are now. To spend time appreciating our experiences as just like in a painting, they make up the tapestry of who we are. Of course, these experiences may not have always been easy but they each have the potential to be gifts, to be something that helps us to move forward and to expand ourselves and our consciousness.
I listened to a meditation recently which guided participants to do exactly this, to see each experience (especially those which were challenging) not as something to push away or to feel ashamed or embarrassed about but rather to simply honour them as a part of the journey. It was so beautiful and left me with such a feeling of inner peace. The more judgement we have, the more that we attract it into our lives because it’s what we’re focusing on. So it’s important to be aware of when we’re in this space of judging something or ourselves/others and to release it with ease.
It’s time to remember that we are love and that the most important person that we can direct this love to is ourselves. Your initial inclination may be to send love to others but send it to yourself first. It’s like on an airplane when there is an emergency, you need to take care of yourself before you’ll be able to do anything for anyone else. When you give yourself love and come from this full place within yourself, then the overflow of love that you feel is what you share with others.
It may feel selfish or wrong in some way but this comes from conditioning in society which tells us that we are only okay when people approve of us or ‘like’ us whether it be family, friends, people at work etc. However, when we truly love, accept and approve of ourselves, this is when the magic happens. You’ll discover that actually you don’t need anyone else to tell you that you’re okay and you then free yourself to direct your life in the best possible way for you.
Here are some simply and easy steps to help guide you on this healing journey to remembering who you are:
If you can make the above steps a daily practice, I can assure you that your life will change in a positive way. It might not initially feel comfortable especially as you begin to realise just how many false beliefs have been placed on you, but keep persisting. When you invest the time into your own journey and healing, it will reveal its gifts to you.
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