Creating consciously

It may seem like a crazy time to be talking about creating anything at the moment when the world seems to be in such a huge state of flux and the future appears very uncertain. However, to me this seems like the perfect time. With many of us confined at home, what better use of time then to contemplate our future and what we really want out of it.

We are natural creators or co-creators of our lives and destinies. Look back on your life and see all the things that you have manifested or attracted in. Most of them would have started with a budding thought and a desire to have it come to fruition. Our imagination and emotions are great tools in creating what we want in life.

As children, we manifested all the time without constraints until we started being told that our dreams were not feasible, realistic or desirable in some way. We started to believe what the adults in our lives told us and stuck to the well-trodden path outlined by society which would have included things like studying at university, finding a job, buying a house and getting a mortgage, getting married and having kids, and finally, saving for your retirement. There’s nothing wrong with any of these things but I would question if this would be the dream life for most people.

In addition, parents/caregivers have become much more aware of nurturing and supporting the needs of children but for those of us who didn’t have this, old beliefs can keep our dreams and lives small. When I was in primary school, my school principal told me that I wouldn’t get very far in my life and not to bother aiming too high. You can imagine how disappointing it would have been to have heard this as a young child when you still had your whole life ahead of you. I can’t tell you why but after the initial hurt, rather than letting it stop me, I became motivated to do the best that I could to achieve my dreams and what I wanted in life.

Due to the environment and society that I grew up in where material things mattered, I started out manifesting from my left brain (my dreams of becoming a fashion designer or artist had been discouraged very early on!). This meant setting out to achieve certain material goals by the age of 30 such as buying a flat, attaining a certain position in my career etc.

However, after achieving these goals, I realised that as much as I appreciated them and the experience that they provided me with, I wanted more out of my life. I had no desire to just keep earning money for the sake of it and spending it on buying things that didn’t really give me much joy after the initial high. Through time, I realised that although my head was telling me one thing about what I wanted in life, my heart was telling me another.

Fortunately, through this experience I realised that having material things wasn’t a huge motivation for me and that I wanted to be of service to the world in some way. I spent more time tuning into what really gave me joy and fulfilment in my life; that is, the things that made my heart sing. I spent many years studying different healing methods and esoteric subjects which have helped me to get to where I am now.

Each day is a blessing as I can live in the present moment and not worry about the future (it still happens but less so now). I trust that life is unfolding as it’s meant to because when we follow and listen to our heart and intuition, we are always on the right track. It doesn’t mean that life will be perfect because that’s not the reason why we’re here. We will have to come up against doubts and fears but as we face up to them, they will disappear or lose their power over us. The mind works best when it’s put to the task of creating actions to achieve our goals but it’s the heart that needs to guide our path.

If you want to start letting go of stress and worry, here are some tips to help you start creating consciously what you want in your life:

• Spend time really contemplating what you want in life. Give yourself time to dream and cloud watch/star gaze and to use your imagination (and to give yourself a break from logical thinking). Given yourself permission to be childlike again, to be curious and to play with an imaginary future. Get clear on the emotions that you want to feel or the essence of what it is that you want (how it looks is less important). In the past it was ‘normal’ to focus on creating money but what if money came to you when you focused on creating value and joy in the world? If we use this as the starting point then the possibilities become endless. Ask yourself what legacy you’d like to leave in the world? What do you want to leave for the people who will be left behind once you exit from it?

• After imagining your ideal life, take time to see how it feels in your body. Does it feel good or do you feel tension? If it’s the latter, where is the tension coming from? If you feel tension when you think and feel into this new idea, then likely it’s either still coming from old conditioning of a life you may have been told to have or there is some fear around manifesting it. For example, you could have blocks due to not feeling good enough and that you’re not worthy of having the life that you want. It’s then a good time to look at this because once you face up to these fears or old beliefs you will see that they’re not real and that you can change your beliefs to fit in with who you are now. Remember that when we create from fear, we just create from more fear whereas when we create from love, this is when the magic happens;

• When you have a good idea of the feelings and the essence of what you want in the future (and perhaps a vision if you are a visual person) and it feels good in your heart and body, you will need to let go of any attachment to it. It’s normal to want something and to want it a lot but when it comes from a place of neediness, this is the energy that will surround the idea. And as I mentioned in the second point, we need to be creating from a space of love otherwise we will end up just creating more fear. So let go of how and when it will come to you knowing that what is meant for you will be yours.

• Finally, where possible take small steps/actions towards this dream on a daily basis. Perhaps it will be keeping this vision in your heart, or taking time to study the practicalities of what you would need to do to manifest your dream. When we start making these small steps, our energy shifts as the idea/dream becomes more grounded in reality which creates momentum for its manifestation.

Have fun with this process and keep it a joyful activity. If it starts to become tiresome, then there’s likely to be some resistance surfacing so look into what this could be. Creating consciously may seem strange at first as it’s not what we’ve been taught to do but once you start to see the small synchronicities in your life (as things come together to make your dreams a reality), you’ll see that creating the life that we want doesn’t need to be as difficult as we’ve been told.